Screaming and Swearing at Your Wife Will Destroy the Marriage for Husband and Wife

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id="mod_9527714">Screaming and swearing
When couples resort to screaming, yelling and swearing at each other the respect and the foundation of the marriage will deteriorate. A spouse under no circumstance has the right to treat the other person in that manner. The end result of this type of communication is that the person who is being screamed at will eventually become numb to their spouse and all of the love, affection and respect that they once had for them will vanish. When two people who care about one another disrespect each other in this way than neither persons point will be taken to heart and there will be no resolution to the problem.

Being a bully
Screaming and swearing is a part of being a bully and trying to dominate and control the other person in the marriage. The person doing the screaming may think that they have gotten the other person to change or agree with them but the truth of the matter is, is that they just bullied their spouse. No one likes to be screamed at or called names; the person who uses this type of communication usually has low self esteem and a lack of proper communication skills, as well as acting immature.

Stop taking the abuse
If your spouse treats you in this manner then you must put a stop to it, this is unacceptable behavior and must not be tolerated.

The screaming typically is associated with being a man but this is not always the case, as women can bully their husbands as well.

How does a person change their circumstance? The answer is to walk away from the bully leaving them to yell at themselves, do not engage a bully. You have to stand up for yourself and not allow this to happen. Many times a spouse will justify their behavior and say that they can't control the screaming or they have a short temper, or other excuses that they can think of. The truth is that most people can control their temper, but they choose not to because you have allowed them to get away with the bad behavior.

One way to prove this scenario that they do indeed have control is: Ask yourself these questions, do they fly off the handle at work? Do they act this way around friends? Do they act this way in public? Have you seen them control their temper? If you answered yes to any of these questions then the spouse that is bullying you can control their temper they are just chosing not to around you.

If your spouse truly can't control their temper then, you need to leave and stay with someone safe, that is a person who has allowed themselves to be out of control and may become violent. This is more prevalent in a spouse that gets angered after drinking or is taking drugs. Most people are able to control themselves if expected to.

Leaving
The majority of bulling from a spouse though can be controlled and if you want the name calling and yelling to stop then you must do something dramatic to let them know that you are serious and you have had enough. Living in a marriage with a spouse that yells at you and calls you names is not normal and can be very damaging to yourself esteem and to raising children in that type of environment. Tell your spouse calmly and directly that you will leave the next time that they behave in this manner and put an end to it now, but make sure that you do leave!

Does your spouse yell at you
When your spouse yells at you how does it make you feel?

Loss respect for them

Bad about myself

Angry

Scared
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sendingFloridaWife

13 months ago

My husband is abusive and demeaning, threatening and controlling. It's impossible to love someone that abuses you. Get out.


gonzo xxx

4 years ago

My husband shouts at me everyday for very little things it's been 3 years now I am just fed up of this we have 2 gals , 2.5 , and 3 months . Don't know what to do please help me


Emma Sam

5 years ago

Your post is such a comfort cause I always think that I am wrong expecting respect from people but most of all from my husband. It is such a devastating life to feel this kind of abuse and like it was said, most of the time the financial issue is always the reason why we get stuck in it. Where will I go with the kids and the dog? Who will believe me since he looks like an angel. And then the questions, what do you do to make him react like that.

Why is it that the abuser becomes the victim?? I really wish I had a way to get out of this without living in the street and loosing everything. I can't do that to my kids even if I live this life, they don't deserve to have no place to call home except here. People can judge us but we are doing it for the kids and not because we don't have strenght but we have no way out. I have look and thought day and night to see how I can get out of this hell hole but I can't see.

I met a nice lady last year and told her my story. She was an ex abused emotionaly wife like me and she was trying to guide me to a place where women shared their stories but I didn't want to go because I have enough of my pain without hearing theirs.

I always hope to have the winning numbers but I know it's just a dream. Reality is different and until the kids are able to manage on their own, I can't see a way out.

My husband always says that I am responsible because I don't understand how he is but yes I do. I just choose to shut up so I don,t put oil on the very big fire. I can say he has been abusive in many different ways for the last 12 years and his temper is getting worst. I have suggested to him to go seek help with a doctor but he keeps saying that if I wouldn't talk he would not get upset.

F.. u, bitch, dumb ass , idiot, you name it he will tell me but the worst part of all this , is that I will tell him nicely. apologize to me so I can just forget and then he will tell me more and scream more. Those words are worst than a knife, the cuts are huge and bleeding and bleeding and his destruction will not stop. But the worst is that now my teenage daughter is now paying disrespect to me like she saw her dad do. I know it's pathetic but no way out. None, really none. I just have to pray and endure until I can get out of this.

I really pray hard every day that there is a light and a possibility for me for a better life ...without him.

Thank you all for sharing, it helps me to see that I am not


PandoraZbox

5 years ago

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